On an email with my manager I described a coworker I only worked with once as a small, thin woman that was either born in an East Asian country or has East Asian parents. I don’t know this person’s name. I don’t see a better way to describe her all things considered.
The managers answer: it is disrespectful to describe people according to ethnic background or physical appearance.
My next question for this manager: dear manager, how should I describe this person then?
I don’t know if I’m being genuinely disrespectful or this is a very thin skinned manager. Either way, I had to work with another coworker I didn’t know either. This conversation with manager B ensued:
manager B: ‘today you’re working with mike’
me: ‘who’s mike?’
manager B: ‘that fat guy’
make it make sense.
As a fat dude, I think it’s a perfectly valid way to describe me. It’s not insulting nor in this case used to be derogatory, it’s just a fact.
I didn’t say it wasn’t valid, I just said it’s disrespectful. Generally, it is. While you’re ok with it, not everyone who’s fat is ok with it.